How to live a good life is a question almost tired, it has been so explored. But for me, the rebirth/requestioning that is taking place is so new, and so unexplored, that really asking it is not a failure.
If I was to meet myself in five years, and was to find I was living a perfect life, what would I find? A healthy body, exercised and with no problems or stresses. A mind happy and joyful, again capable and with skills, still willing to learn. And a spirit in touch with compassion, aware of the remarkable and the spiritual, connecting with others and with a greater good.
To have joy, one must work.
A healthy body can only be arrived at by exercise, regular and routine. So I will have to go swimming and weight lifting several times a week.
To have a happy mind, I need to take on study and learning. I need to take up a new skill, or skills, I need to practice new disciplines. I also need to take up mental discipline; perhaps Stoicism, though without the frequent foray into a masculinity that romanticizes the hermitic life. (Come at me bro!)
A spiritual life is one that thinks of others even when it is not necessarily in one’s first interests.
So lazy! I have more to write and it is so late, and still I dawdle!
Today I saw my business coach again, and we spoke for an hour and a bit. I left with a notepad covered in notes, but a summation would, should, include;
Research a particular business topic that will help me guide my team.
- Rethink the problem and the dialogue surrounding it.
- Reclaim the space of the problem and add my own successes to it; in some areas of work I have made huge progress, I need to create that energy to this area of work.
- How do we create a climate of safety for our team?
- And also, I am responsible, not guilty. I need to take breaks, set boundaries, take the time to learn, and to work well, not more.
- I need to communicate, and to have the deep fear of not being worthy, of having no right to be here, fade away. Like a smoker needs to examine the emotion before the impulse to smoke, I need to examine my own self doubt before giving into it.
- I have for some topics passion, intelligence, and am willing to give real support, at times I am almost an evangelist. That is what I should bring to work.
- Spock is a thousand times better than Kirk (but you already knew that).
Dear friend, thank you for reading my late night ramblings. I will continue tomorrow to examine these fruits of my thoughts.
How are Things? 